Today was quite an exciting day! This morning we all went to support Flavio at his Church basketball game! I thought to invite Papa, and all else in the Shaffer household who wanted to come! Papa and my mom came to see Flavio's game! They won last week's game, but didn't win today, (most likely because the other team was composed of giants). Nathan shouts BALL (which sounds more like BAAH).
After, we had brunch at Denny's. It was nice of the waiter to bring Nathan a coloring page and crayon! :) Nathan enjoys dropping things on the floor, more than coloring- at this stage in his life.
Then we headed home for some rest. I did some work, and then we decided to go to Jungle Jims! I have not been there in years! It was so fun to see Nathan have fun and see all the colorful rides, play, etc. We enjoy watching Nathan play and have fun and explore!
Then we did some grocery shopping, and returned home. Today was fun!
Familia Valente: El Comienzo de la Eternidad Valente Family: The Beginning of Eternity
Saturday, March 7, 2015
Sunday, February 2, 2014
“You will never have the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband and kids.” – Amy Glass Actually … I disagree with Amy on this one. Let me tell you why.
Who is more exceptional?
Is it the person who has traveled the world, or the person who speaks 5 languages? Is it the stay at home mom, or the college professor? Is it the mechanic down the street, or the factory workers in foreign countries? Is it the famous in Hollywood or is it you or is it me?
Is it the person who has traveled the world, or the person who speaks 5 languages? Is it the stay at home mom, or the college professor? Is it the mechanic down the street, or the factory workers in foreign countries? Is it the famous in Hollywood or is it you or is it me?
Who is more exceptional?
Or…
Does it matter? (No. We need not compare ourselves to others, for we all have divine worth, and we all can become exceptional.)
And what does “exceptional” really mean? Who is to define it?
Does it matter? (No. We need not compare ourselves to others, for we all have divine worth, and we all can become exceptional.)
And what does “exceptional” really mean? Who is to define it?
Should we be concerned
that the world views us as exceptional according to their definition? Or should
we view ourselves, with every flaw and imperfection, as still: Exceptional or
even, a person with potential to be exceptional. Should we focus on our
personal progress and potential? Should we measure our growth against
ourselves, or against others? Should we assume that all people are 100% exactly
the same, and therefore miss all those beautiful and unique differences truly
among us?
I respect one’s right to their opinion. I also have an
opinion on what Amy has written, and I feel it is important for me to share
what I believe to others.
I seriously could write a lot about all of
this, and I would have to go into great detail. Instead, however, I am going to
try to simplify what I would like to share. After having read Amy Glass’ post,
I thought of the following points:
·
The definition of “exceptional” –it’s up for
interpretation J
·
The concept of comparing
self to others- as humans, we tend to do it, let’s stop!
·
The true meaning of equality-It’s not about doing the
same things, but about having equally important and necessary roles. (A concept
I better understood after having listened to Sister Linda Burton who said,
referring to equality within the home and church, but we can also apply it to
every circumstance: “Equality, Sister Burton said, “doesn’t always mean
sameness. But we are of equal value no matter where we are — in the church or
the home.”
“We can have equality having different roles,” she continued. “We each
have strengths that we need to bring … We don’t necessarily have to be equal in
the same roles. We need to have differing roles to bring that strength and
bless the church. So I would hope that those who don’t feel that way, that they
would feel that they are needed for the strengths and gifts they bring.”) http://www.deseretnews.com/article/865577592/Mormon-women-seek-blessings-not-authority-LDS-women-leaders-say.html?pg=all
·
The understanding of the
purpose of life- See http://mormon.org/beliefs/plan-of-salvation
To Learn, Grow, be Tested, Prove we will
follow the Savior by keeping His commandments.
·
The attribute of humility- Humility is the
opposite of Pride.
·
The definition of “real accomplishments” – Where are one’s
priorities? This depends on one’s understanding of one’s self and one’s purpose.
So, since not everyone knows this yet, many simply do the best they can
according to the knowledge they have, and since they are not yet aware of the
eternal things they can and should aspire to, they aspire to excellence within
life, which is great, but not the only point to life and which does not define
one’s self worth.
·
Understanding Divine
Roles – See http://www.lds.org/topics/family-proclamation?lang=eng
Men and women have divine roles. Women’s
divine role is as a wife and mother.
·
Following the Savior
Jesus Christ – See http://mormon.org/beliefs/jesus-christ
He has given us a perfect example of what we should be focused on in life.
Going
back to Amy’s quote: “You will never have
the time, energy, freedom or mobility to be exceptional if you have a husband
and kids.” It is interesting to note, that she doesn’t mention “capacity”,
therefore she must agree that stay at home moms have the capacity for
exceptionality… However she has directly implied that to be exceptional, one
needs time, energy, freedom or mobility, and she is also stating that a woman
with a “husband and kids” does not have the “time, energy, freedom or mobility
to be exceptional” I also noticed that
Amy did not mention “money” as a necessity to be exceptional, which is good because
money is certainly not necessary for being an exceptional person.
Let’s say, we all agree that a certain person is an exceptional artist I can see how if one agrees with a generally accepted definition of “exceptional” for example, then I believe everyone would think that that means that they are a very excellent artist! This person may have had the time to practice their craft, sufficient energy to do so, freedom (perhaps in their work schedule) to dedicate themselves to their talent, and mobility (they may have been able to go and see other inspiring artists or exhibits).
So if
one wants to be exceptional, perhaps there is some validity to the
statement that one needs time, energy, freedom etc. But perhaps it’s more than
that. Perhaps one can be exceptional even though they do not have the “time,
energy, freedom or mobility.”
However, Martin Luther King Jr. and Rosa Parks for example lived in a time where they were faced with a lack of freedom as a result of a racist society. Yet, wouldn’t most people consider them to be exceptional people? They knew their right to freedom, and stood up for their beliefs in the face of opposition.
Or what about the basketball players at Cuyamaca College who are confined to a wheelchair, and have limited mobility, yet still play competitive basketball? (http://www.gcccd.edu/news/2013/10/103013wheelchair-basketball-.html)
However, Martin Luther King Jr. and Rosa Parks for example lived in a time where they were faced with a lack of freedom as a result of a racist society. Yet, wouldn’t most people consider them to be exceptional people? They knew their right to freedom, and stood up for their beliefs in the face of opposition.
Or what about the basketball players at Cuyamaca College who are confined to a wheelchair, and have limited mobility, yet still play competitive basketball? (http://www.gcccd.edu/news/2013/10/103013wheelchair-basketball-.html)
What
about someone like my sister Adrienne, an exceptional woman who strives to do
her best, and who makes sacrifices to serve others, even when that means she
has limited time to devote to some
things she might be wanting and waiting to do…
I
believe an exceptional person is one who strives to be their best and who person
as one who is consistent.
Anything
can help us become a more exceptional person! For example, Amy believes a
husband and kids will not allow me to be an exceptional person…but I know that
is not true! J Do you know how I know? From personal experience!
Having a husband and now also a child, is definitely going to
help me to become a more exceptional person!
I will give you an example!
Just
yesterday, I was talking to my husband about how I would wait until the next
day to eat a delicious treat he brought for me. Then…I was having second
thoughts, and I wanted to change my mind, and I thought (as I tend to usually
think), Oh I can just change my mind and eat it today if I want. Many times I
have this bad habit of saying one thing and then suddenly doing another, simply
because I decided to change my mind. Because of the help of my husband, I am
learning to keep my word, which will help me be a more exceptional person.
My husband taught me that it is an important thing to do especially since we have a child and hope to have more children, because it will teach them to have respect for me. I know that what he taught me is true and important, and I did it! I improved, and having a husband and a child really will help
My husband taught me that it is an important thing to do especially since we have a child and hope to have more children, because it will teach them to have respect for me. I know that what he taught me is true and important, and I did it! I improved, and having a husband and a child really will help
I think
that if a person wants to know if they are exceptional or not, they should ask
themselves:
Who Am I Becoming?
What attributes of my character am I developing?
Do my actions reflect those personal attributes of my character?
What attributes of my character am I developing?
Do my actions reflect those personal attributes of my character?
Rather than:
How prestigious of a lifestyle do I have?
How many countries have I visited?
How much education do I have?
How good am I at a certain talent?
How prestigious of a lifestyle do I have?
How many countries have I visited?
How much education do I have?
How good am I at a certain talent?
Or worse: Is my life more prestigious than theirs?
Have I visited more countries than she has? Do I have more education than my
friends? Am I better at my talents than they are?
Are we
concerned with being our best selves, or being better than someone else?
Is an
exceptional person concerned about getting themselves ahead, or helping others?
Having
a child will also be something that can help me to be a more exceptional
person. For example, because of my child, I can improve so many things about
myself such as time management, consistency, creativity, but also I need to
live as an example, so being more kind, thoughtful, positive, humble, obedient,
righteous, thorough, friendly, loving, gentle, faithful.
Perhaps
an exceptional person is many things. The term “exceptional” can be measured
against many standards.
But I think the most important thing to focus on is what is important to you? What is your priority, or rather, what should your priority be?
There is nothing wrong with having a lot of education, or traveling the world, or being an amazing artist, all of that is wonderful! And there is nothing wrong with being a wife and mother. For these are the divine roles that women are to play.
But I think the most important thing to focus on is what is important to you? What is your priority, or rather, what should your priority be?
There is nothing wrong with having a lot of education, or traveling the world, or being an amazing artist, all of that is wonderful! And there is nothing wrong with being a wife and mother. For these are the divine roles that women are to play.
One can
be an exceptional person, no matter what their situation. You may travel the world and you may be an
exceptional person. You may never see another country or state in your life,
and still be an exceptional person.
But I
do know, and I repeat, that the Family, is the most important unit in society.
The Family is divinely appointed. A mother and father have divine roles,
different, but equally important and necessary.
I say to all the wives,
all the mothers, to Amy Glass and all the people in the world, that you don’t
need Time, Energy, Freedom or Mobility to be Exceptional! We all were born to
be exceptional and if we have the desire to be exceptional, well then nothing
but ourselves can stop us from obtaining that goal. Being exceptional is about Who you are, and
What you are becoming, not in terms of pleasing the world, but in terms of
reflecting your divine nature as a child of God. Being exceptional is about
improving day to day.
Being exceptional is a matter of what is Within your heart, your soul.
Being exceptional is a matter of what is Within your heart, your soul.
Having
a husband and a child does not keep me from being exceptional; rather it is an
opportunity to become more exceptional! And how exciting is that? It is a great
blessing!
May we
lift one another, may we be more consistent, may we (as President Gordon B.
Hinckley said) “be a little better, stand a little taller”.
May we
learn of and remember our purpose in life, and our divine nature. We were born
to be exceptional. Life is a journey that we are all on, may we learn day by
day, and serve one another. May we be kind and loving. May we not be judgmental
but rather, understanding.
I am
once again, thankful for the many opportunities life brings each day, to become
a more exceptional person.
Heidi
Renee Valente – Wife and Mother
February 2, 2014
February 2, 2014
Saturday, November 23, 2013
Mt Ensign 2nd Ward Baby Shower!! TANTO AMOR
What sweet ladies. They totally didn't have to, but they did and they did it with so much love. I was told it started at noon, but apparently it started at 11.....finally a sister came to our home and told me they were all waiting for me! Surprise! Ok! So I hurried to get myself ready and went over, and one of the sisters said they thought maybe I had gone to the hospital! :) Not Yet, thankfully!
They decorated and have food and cake and games and lots of gifts, I am amazed at how many diapers and wipes! Seriously it's awesome! Almost 1000 wipes! haha so cool! We are going to have one clean baby girl :)
They made me cry when they did the "Cadena de Amor" or Chain of Love. They made a paper chain, where each person wrote a piece of advice, or a message, or a wish or something to me or to our baby girl. It was so sweet to hear her name said over and over. Alina :)
Here are the photos!
They decorated and have food and cake and games and lots of gifts, I am amazed at how many diapers and wipes! Seriously it's awesome! Almost 1000 wipes! haha so cool! We are going to have one clean baby girl :)
They made me cry when they did the "Cadena de Amor" or Chain of Love. They made a paper chain, where each person wrote a piece of advice, or a message, or a wish or something to me or to our baby girl. It was so sweet to hear her name said over and over. Alina :)
Here are the photos!
Wednesday, November 20, 2013
A good read, and it's free!
My younger brother Peter posted on Facebook a link to some great writers: the Eyres.
They have a website where you can read their books online for FREE or get them for SUPER CHEAP electronically. The website is called eyresfreebooks.com. I am loving it! I am currently reading, (well I just started today haha) one of the books and its called A Joyful Mother of Children and I am excited to continue reading it!
Hopefully you can find a book there, that you will enjoy and grow from! :) Happy Reading and Learning!
They have a website where you can read their books online for FREE or get them for SUPER CHEAP electronically. The website is called eyresfreebooks.com. I am loving it! I am currently reading, (well I just started today haha) one of the books and its called A Joyful Mother of Children and I am excited to continue reading it!
Hopefully you can find a book there, that you will enjoy and grow from! :) Happy Reading and Learning!
Tuesday, November 19, 2013
Thursday, November 14, 2013
94 YEARS 94 AÑOS
Papa, my grandpa, turned 94 yesterday! He had a great big American flag cake for his birthday.
Those who came to celebrate were Me and Flavio, Aunt Chris and Uncle David, Peter and Heather and Melanie, cousin Phillip with his four children, and then a visit from the 9th ward Young men and Young women group with some of their leaders. I took some pictures! I remember that Papa loves humor and comics, so I printed out some comic strips for him, and made him a card. Hopefully he will reach 100 so he gets that letter from the President of the United States, which is what he's looking forward to.
Papa, mi abuelo, cumplio 94 ayer! Tuvo una gran torta de la bandera Estadounidense para su cumple. Aquellos que vinieron a celebrar fueron yo y Flavio, Tia Chris y Tio David, Peter y Heather y Melanie, primo Phillip y sus cuatro hijos, y entonces una visita del grupo de jovenes del barrio 9 con unos de sus lideres. Yo saque unos fotos! Le hice a Papa una tarjeta, e inclui "comics" que son como chistes en dibujitos. Se espera que llega a los 100 años para que pueda recibir una carta del Presidente de los Estados Unidos, porque eso es lo que el quiere.
Those who came to celebrate were Me and Flavio, Aunt Chris and Uncle David, Peter and Heather and Melanie, cousin Phillip with his four children, and then a visit from the 9th ward Young men and Young women group with some of their leaders. I took some pictures! I remember that Papa loves humor and comics, so I printed out some comic strips for him, and made him a card. Hopefully he will reach 100 so he gets that letter from the President of the United States, which is what he's looking forward to.
Papa, mi abuelo, cumplio 94 ayer! Tuvo una gran torta de la bandera Estadounidense para su cumple. Aquellos que vinieron a celebrar fueron yo y Flavio, Tia Chris y Tio David, Peter y Heather y Melanie, primo Phillip y sus cuatro hijos, y entonces una visita del grupo de jovenes del barrio 9 con unos de sus lideres. Yo saque unos fotos! Le hice a Papa una tarjeta, e inclui "comics" que son como chistes en dibujitos. Se espera que llega a los 100 años para que pueda recibir una carta del Presidente de los Estados Unidos, porque eso es lo que el quiere.
Tuesday, November 12, 2013
HAPPY 2ND ANNIVERSARY!!! FELIZ 2DO ANIVERSARIO!
HOT CHOCOLATE AND FRUIT ** Breakfast in Bed
COLORFUL DAISIES
TREASURE HUNT FOR A SPECIAL SLIDE SHOW PRESENTATION
SURPRISE DANCE IN THE KITCHEN
SEALINGS IN THE TEMPLE** Tradition
MATERNITY/ANNIVERSARY PHOTOS AT TEMPLE SQUARE
CHOCOLATE CALIENTE Y FRUTA ** Desayuno en la Cama
FLORES DE COLORES
BUSQUEDA DE TESORO PARA UNA PRESENTACION ESPECIAL
BAILE DE SORPRESA EN LA COCINA
SELLAMIENTOS EN EL TEMPLO ** Tradicion
FOTOS DE MATERNIDAD/ANIVERSARIO EN TEMPLE SQUARE
COLORFUL DAISIES
TREASURE HUNT FOR A SPECIAL SLIDE SHOW PRESENTATION
SURPRISE DANCE IN THE KITCHEN
SEALINGS IN THE TEMPLE** Tradition
MATERNITY/ANNIVERSARY PHOTOS AT TEMPLE SQUARE
CHOCOLATE CALIENTE Y FRUTA ** Desayuno en la Cama
FLORES DE COLORES
BUSQUEDA DE TESORO PARA UNA PRESENTACION ESPECIAL
BAILE DE SORPRESA EN LA COCINA
SELLAMIENTOS EN EL TEMPLO ** Tradicion
FOTOS DE MATERNIDAD/ANIVERSARIO EN TEMPLE SQUARE
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